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I think my physical fitness is still gradually improving - my cycle and walking commutes are getting a little smoother and faster and less tiring each week, and it's perfectly reasonable to cycle to hospital and then to work.  What I'm finding though is that exercise, work, childcare, study and housework are all drawing from the same pool of energy and that seems to have stopped growing.  "Pushing through", like I did to get the essay in a few weeks back, is like going overdrawn and then having to rest even more to replenish the shortfall.  I'm still going splat at least once or twice a week.

I seriously considered requesting a formal short-term reduction in work hours, to the point of working out how much it would reduce my take-home pay.[1]  That turned out to be quite a lot.[2]  I'm pretty certain we could cut back enough to cover the gap, but that in itself becomes more work and stress, so it's not as helpful an idea as I first thought.

Instead, at least for now, Tony is going to take on rather more than half of the housework, including taking back the weekday evening meals which I've been doing since the start of the year. The pressure to get the children fed as soon as possible after 6pm seems to have eased up, so eating later (which has happened a few times recently when I've been too tired to cook) seems to be fine.  I think we'll still try to keep weekend menu planning / shopping list generation going though.

I am going to use the time Tony is giving me to rest more, and to study more consistently, which will in turn make me happier and less stressed.  I would rather reduce our income than give up studying; one of the things I learned from being ill was that learning matters a lot to me.

[1] It took me a while to find a calculator that could reproduce my current payslip with the various deductions I have going out.

[2] Woe woe, the diamond shoes of my high income are pinching, I know.

Date: 2016-05-21 21:05 (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] davidgillon
Probably not an option for you due to family commitments (and technically wasn't an option for me due to company rules), but when I found that I couldn't handle a 37.5 hour 5 day week due to pain levels, I managed it by shifting the hours I couldn't manage over to Saturday afternoons, which was a regular overtime spot for my department. People didn't realise that when I arrived late and stayed on after everyone else I was actually covering anything up to five hours of work I should have done during the week.

Management eventually caught on, but it got me through about 5 years where I just couldn't have managed the full working week in five days.

Yay communication and planning

Date: 2016-05-21 22:05 (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] alatefeline
Way to logic! This kind of spoon-counting can be really hard and emotional. I'm glad it sounds like you have good support at home and some areas that, while you don't want to sacrifice them, offer a bit of a cushion in case of emergency.

Date: 2016-05-22 09:54 (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] hilarita
Chemo does seem to leave long-lasting fatigue, and doctors seem to be rather optimistic about how quickly it resolves. You're doing the right thing, even though it's hard.

Date: 2016-05-22 10:30 (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] angrboda
It seems reasonable to me that it's going to take a lot longer for you to be completely back to 100% strength again. It's not like you just got over the flu, you know. :)

I think it's good that you made the calculations on reduced work hours, though. Even though you found it was an unattractive solution and found a better way around it, it's something you can now stop spending energy on mulling over. Plus it sounds like your workplace has been very understanding throughout and willing to help you get back at a pace comfortable to you.

Meal planning is wonderful, though! Husband and I started doing it when we moved here two years ago because we finally had a fridge large enough that we could shop for a whole week in one go. It's such a relief to not have to spend time on shopping and considering what to cook every single day, and we always keep frozen pizzas on hand for emergencies. Now we just shop once a week on Sunday morning when the shop's not too busy and it has saved us a lot of time. :)

Date: 2016-05-22 13:34 (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] piqueen
When I was ill (pregnancy related) my doctor wrote me a fit note that said I had to work fewer hours. Work then paid me full time. It seems rough to me that you have been using holiday to cover a reduced ability to work. Would your doctor write you a similar note?

Date: 2016-05-23 06:14 (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] piqueen
Sounds like a plan.

Date: 2016-05-22 16:25 (UTC)
From: [identity profile] pennski.livejournal.com
This sounds like a very sensible plan. I do hope your energy reserves increase.


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