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[personal profile] rmc28
I'm trying to work through the "I Shoulds" in my life, one of which is I Should read all the interesting blogs and twitterers that I've found, every day. I feel I've tilted too far towards consumption, with little-to-no time for reflection, analysis or creation of my own. My free time is finite, and my goals are not achieved if I spend all of it reading, no matter how worthy or witty the topic, or beloved the writer.

There's a good article on poverty and willpower I read last week. I'm only time-poor but this advice is universal:

"next time you find yourself full of self-discipline, don't spend it trying to behave virtuously; spend it, instead, altering your environment to reduce your future dependence on willpower."

So this afternoon I've been filled with energy and self-discipline, caught up on a weeks' worth of DW and LJ, and I've started to cull too. I hate defriending, that knowledge that I'm triggering a chirpy little message saying rmc28 doesn't love you any more (a post about how time-poor I am doesn't make it any better does it?). I can be more ruthless about Twitter, because it only tells you when someone starts to follow you, and Reader doesn't tell its RSS feeds anything.

Google+ is being ignored until I have more grip.

Date: 2011-07-31 18:11 (UTC)
From: [personal profile] bemused_leftist
I'd read a similar article with more science in it.

Imo the idea applies to environmentalism, too. People who exhaust themselves bicycling and recycling, have less mental energy for activism.

Date: 2011-07-31 18:16 (UTC)
kake: The word "kake" written in white fixed-font on a black background. (Default)
From: [personal profile] kake
Sounds very sensible to me!

Date: 2011-07-31 18:30 (UTC)
twigletzone: Red and white striped socks clothes-pegged to the guy rope of a tent. (Default)
From: [personal profile] twigletzone
Oh, dear god yes, the tyranny of Should. Sometimes I feel like every single possession I have is just one scale in a carapace of guilt. Craft materials are especially bad in that respect. They sit there giving me puppy eyes, saying "Please.. make me beautiful... please..."

I was doing really well at the anti-Stuff-athon yesterday, and then I had a row with someone on Facebook this morning and now I hate myself again and am totally paralysed. *sigh*

That article is incredible. It's so true. I've been through that a hundred times. The point where even deciding what you want for dinner is an insurmountable obstacle because you've been completely drained by the rest of your day.

Date: 2011-07-31 21:35 (UTC)
kake: The word "kake" written in white fixed-font on a black background. (Default)
From: [personal profile] kake
Oh, thank you for this comment. The number of times I've felt utterly useless because deciding what to make for dinner was just One Thing Too Many...

Date: 2011-08-01 15:15 (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] naath
Ahahaha. It's like "go into shop, stare at enormous choice, panic". Dreadful. Stupid shops offering so much choice. My major solution is to make my OH do all the thinking-about-food... My minor solution is to figure out what I want for dinner just after eating lunch, I print out a recipe or shopping list and take it with me to the shop. Just Can Not Think in food stores.

Date: 2011-08-02 22:14 (UTC)
kake: The word "kake" written in white fixed-font on a black background. (Default)
From: [personal profile] kake
I have to do the thinking-about-food in my household, since otherwise dinner would be peanut butter on toast every night :)

I have been trying to do the equivalent of "altering your environment to reduce your future dependence on willpower", by spending spare mental energy on things like figuring out which brands of frozen/freezable veggieburger taste acceptable (since they're really easy, just stick them in the oven and defrost some rolls) — the problem is that my brain's definition of "acceptable" when it comes to convenience food seems to keep changing!

Date: 2011-08-01 17:20 (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] kaberett
I stop eating when I get too stressed and can't think of what to make, even though cooking itself is something that helps make things better.

I've begun to learn from this. I keep easy calories around during exam term and at points when I know I'm going to be going through a bad patch.

Date: 2011-08-02 22:17 (UTC)
kake: The word "kake" written in white fixed-font on a black background. (Default)
From: [personal profile] kake
I've tried things like making a three-day or five-day food plan that I can purchase entirely from Ocado. Not just made up entirely of convenience food, but also things that I know I could cook with my eyes closed, since as you say cooking is therapy too. This kind of works, but then I have to deal with feelings of guilt over not doing any of my shopping locally! (I know this is silly.)

Date: 2011-08-01 15:13 (UTC)
naath: (Default)
From: [personal profile] naath
I am cultivating a love of yarn in its yarny form. Pet it, love the colours, love the texture... don't stress about when it's going to be socks.

(but oh god, the tyranny of STUFF and yet I can't bring myself to get rid of things; and yet the house is so FULL and ARGH).

Date: 2011-08-02 09:53 (UTC)
twigletzone: Red and white striped socks clothes-pegged to the guy rope of a tent. (Default)
From: [personal profile] twigletzone
Heheh. Oh, god bless you. I am GEEK! My body should be a computer! ARGH WHY ISN'T IT?!

Every single geek ex I've got is just the same :)

Date: 2011-08-02 19:27 (UTC)
twigletzone: Red and white striped socks clothes-pegged to the guy rope of a tent. (Default)
From: [personal profile] twigletzone
Ugh, yes, my allergies make eating on other people's schedules a nightmare. I've taken up camping in self-defence...

Date: 2011-08-02 12:10 (UTC)
From: [identity profile] pjc50.livejournal.com
I don't think you're missing much on Google+, although it seems that people are posting different stuff from what they put on FB/LJ/DW on there. I'm only on there for purposes of accepting invited.

I log into DW with my LJ openid, and have only recently realised the "other side of this airtight hatchway" problem with that.

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