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We were away just under 22 days and we've been home a bit over 48 hours, and work / holiday club start up again tomorrow, plus I have to go get a bone marrow sample (bleh). We got the unpacking and post-opening done Saturday evening.  Yesterday and today we have been mostly going splat and chilling, with a shopping trip for me and the children this afternoon. (Build-A-Bear, new school shoes for Nicholas, and then a bunch of new sleepwear for both of them because they were smitten as we walked past on the way to the shoes.)

The holiday was much harder on the children than I'd expected, to keep changing location so much.  The journey legs themselves mostly went well, all with their share of Children Are Bored, but also all with a fair share of Children Finding It Exciting.  The bigger problem was that settling into a new place to sleep every few nights was Too Much for them, and Worldcon was too big and intimidating. They were stressed, which stressed the adults too. So we did a lot less tourism and a lot more chilling-out and going-swimming than I'd envisaged, and I did a whole lot more emotional labour than usual (from each according to their abilities, to each according to their needs, etc) and everyone got home a bit tired and fed up with each other and very, very glad to be back in our own territory.

In terms of lessons identified:
  • Charles doesn't want to go to another convention again unless he's sure it's on topics that interest him. Unfortunately most of the children's track at Worldcon didn't work for him, and by the time we realised that, he was in a place where he didn't want to engage with me trying to find things of interest to him, he just wanted to stay away from the con.
  • While the rail-trip approach works for me and Tony, the children really just want to go to a place, stay there, do a gentle mix of touristing and chilling out, and go straight home afterward.
  • Three weeks was probably too long for everyone, though it's hard to separate that from the problems of moving too frequently. Two weeks is probably a good maximum for future family holidays.
  • Multi-room apartments with self-catering capability is definitely preferable to hotel rooms, and Airbnb worked well for us. (There was some difficulty getting into our flat in Stockholm, which is its own story, but the Airbnb customer service were helpful and supportive and once we were in, everything ran smoothly.)
  • When I'm not working, and not studying (much), even with the extra load of looking after my over-stressed little family, I have SO much energy. I only had 2 migraines the whole time away (one during Worldcon, one on our last day) and both were controlled by sumatriptan. In another two weeks I'll have finished studying entirely (for now).
I'm glad we went.  If I were to plan it all over again I'd do it differently, but I didn't know then what I know now.  I particularly want to go back to Copenhagen for longer, and to see more of Stockholm than we managed.

Date: 2017-08-28 23:28 (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] tielan
It’s good when you work out what works for you and the people you’re travelling with, and how to mitigate the way you interact when you’re on holiday. (And it can be hard for kids who don’t travel the same way a parent does – my mother is the See Everything, Do Everything, Keep On The Move type, and my sisters and I are Go Somewhere And Use It As A Home Base To Go Out Or Stay Home type, which made for some interesting family holidays until we understood this.

I’m glad you had a good time amidst everything going on (study + touristing + worldcon = wow) and that you had time together as a family, even if it wasn’t always relaxing.

Date: 2017-08-29 08:53 (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] ghoti_mhic_uait
I should have switched children! I was overwhelmed by worldcon and wanted to take an extra day sightseeing but my children were enamoured.
I definitely think of holidays as being like normal work dialled up to 11 for both me and children though, there's a lot more labour in all ways for all of us, but that's how we like it, and Colin doesn't so much so if he's with us, we all try to take over his stress.

Like, the one whole day we had in Vilnius, Judith wanted to go to the Jewish museum and Andreas wanted to go to the museum of applied arts, so A took me and Tom aside and looked at opening times &c and planned how we could do both and get three meals, and then told Colin and Judith that they had to go to bed early because we had a special surprise exciting day, which is exactly the right way to do it because Tom and I take that in our stride, but Colin is more inclined to find that level of stuff planned too stressful. And it all worked and we even got to church which we hadn't been sure we would in the first draft of the plans.


Er, anyway, what I'm saying is, hurray for finding what works for y'all with holidays!

Date: 2017-09-29 18:58 (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] kjn
Hi, the children's track area head for Worldcon 75 here!

I just found your report, and I wonder if you had any comments on why the children's track didn't work for your son. I do know that we very much lacked a calm family room without programming; it was sadly cut due to budget reasons, but it seems like his issues were more with what we offered.

I'm glad you had a good trip regardless!

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